Some women think men
are weird, because they are not as affectionate as women.
I disagree. This is
not the utter truth. You can’t expect men to act like women. There is a massive
difference between natures and acts.
For example, women can
look at each other bodies. They can hug. They can kiss. They can even sleep in
the same bed. And, it doesn't look weird. But, men can’t do this. Men
can’t even cry on the shoulders of their male friends. If they cry, they avoid
each other for several days to confirm that they are not gays.
Men can’t succumb
their nature. Thousands of years, and our society, have built them in that way.
Their mind is hard, and their soul is rough. They believe that showing any sign
of weakness crushes their respect and demolishes their pride.
Women’s Accusations
All my life, I have
seen women accusing men because of three main reasons:
- First, men resent
successful women.
- Second, men are
immature.
- Third, men love
prostitutes.
Especially, during
relationship counseling, women raise these reasons a lot. According to them,
men have odd feelings, strange ideas, and stupid thinking all the time. In
other words, men are the weirdest creatures of this planet. If they can
astonish you with their perfection, then they can confuse you too with their
stupidness.
I agree with all of
this, and I understand the pain of women. Let me tell you what’s the reason
behind their weirdness.
Why Do Men Resent
Successful Women?
Yes. It’s true. Most
men resent successful women; there is no doubt about it. Men find it very
threatening to live with a woman who is more successful than them. Their
comfort level crumbles and they start to notice every negative side of the
relationship.
Consequently,
conflicts arise, and the relationship turns into a battlefield.
Why most men do that?
What are the reasons?
Well, there are
various reasons. For example, it’s in men’s genes to dominate, provide, and
protect. When women earn more than men or become successful in their careers,
men feel that they are good for nothing, and they have lost the power over
their women.
They feel inferior and
jealous, and this thing awakens all sorts of fears inside them. They feel that
you will leave them for other men, they start questioning your loyalty and
love, and they slather the relationship with negativity by focusing on failures
– instead of prosperity.
Apart from this, your
success makes you appear as a competitor, rather than a loving companion, and
compels him to think that his abilities are at stake and he needs to do
something for being more successful than you. He starts focusing on his career,
or looks for other ways to earn more than you so that he can evince his
dominance again.
This approach
disconnects him with you on an emotional level and develops a derisive
mentality in the relationship.
But, time is changing
fast. Men are learning hastily that they can coexist with successful women.
Because, politics, sports, and even the courts are no longer exclusive men’s
clubs.
Lots of relationship
books, online seminars, and happiness’ workshops are influencing men that there
is no harm in living with a successful woman. In fact, it’s great. All they
need is to change their perspectives about women and look at their
relationships with positivity.
If your man also
resents your success, just be calm. Handle the situation with love & care.
Understand that your success is making him extremely sensitive and emotionally
insecure.
Here are few things
which you should do:
(a) Start respecting
him more.
(b) Start giving him
credit for your success.
(c) Ask for his advice
on a constant basis.
(d) Stay feminine and
loving, make him feel that he’s still the man of your dreams.
(c) Hug him tightly,
kiss him passionately, and tell your friends that it was he who supported you
all the way.
Why Are Men Immature?
Most men are immature.
They don’t solve the issues carefully and turn small conflicts into huge
battles. On the other hand, women are very mature. They not only only solve the
issues very carefully but also handle them on a case-by-case basis.
When we look at the
history, we find mature, masculine, and decent men interested in challenging
jobs. They knew how to take the responsibilities and act with patience,
confidence, and passion. They raised their girls as the finest ladies and their
boys as the masculine men.
But, everything has
changed now... I personally blame video games and movies for the destruction of
men’s maturity and success. Especially, video games have paralyzed the mind of
men by changing their overall nature. Today, men spend more time in playing
games rather than doing challenging jobs like their forefathers.
A psychologist at Iowa
State University, Dr. Anderson said, “At the very least, parents should
be aware of what’s in the game, and what kind of values, behavioral skills, and
social scripts the child is learning.”
This statement of Dr.
Anderson explains very well that games have the capacity to destroy the maturity
of a man...
Now, it would be
utterly unfair if I avoid women’s struggles and successes. Women have grown up
as the finest ladies, and their maturity level is better than men. They have
proved, again and again that they are equal to men. In fact, at some places,
they have proved themselves better than men...
I believe, “Women genuinely
deserve standing ovation.”
Why Do Men Love
Prostitutes?
I know it’s weird, but
the simple answer is, “Men love prostitutes because they are not getting
what they want at home.” This is a complete truth. I have asked this
question from hundreds of men, and almost all of them said the same thing, “We
get valuable sex in exchange of money.”
One 2006 study,
conducted in Sweden and circulated in the journal ‘Sexologies’, revealed
that, “Men have whore fantasy; whores provide them that sex which they
don’t acquire from their wives and girlfriends.”
Many prostitutes have
reported that most men reach them for satisfying their specific needs and
fantasies. They are not interested in overall sex sessions. For example, some
men want emotional closeness, some men want fun, and some men want rough
sex.
Prostitutes are like
antidotes of men’s specific needs. That’s why, according to men, sex with a
prostitute is always magical; they are in charge, and they can get what they
want. The feelings of dominance, and the fulfillment of their deepest desires,
slather them with happiness.
Now, it doesn’t mean
all men don’t love their wives. Some men do love their wives, but they don’t
feel comfortable enough to express their sexual desires in front of their
wives. Feelings of fear and embarrassment compel them to think that their wives
will criticize their character and disrespect them whole life.
So, yes, men are
weird. But, most of the time, there are reasons behind their weirdness.
Perhaps, you are missing something which he needs from you. Perhaps, you are challenging
his masculinity with your acts. Perhaps, you are disrespecting him in some
way.
Whatever the reason
is, I suggest you to stay calm, handle the situation with love, and fulfill his
specific need. There is a full possibility that he will listen to you and
eliminate his weird behaviors for living a loving life with you.
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