Q: What do women REALLY want in bed? What turns them on? What turns them OFF? Do women have the same sort of sex fantasies than men do... or is there are totally different sort of sexual dynamic going on when it comes to what they want from intimate experience?
The funny thing is, no matter how much we seem to grow as a culture, and no matter how much technology, evolution and other advances we make as a species, it seems like SEX, and questions and conundrums about EXACTLY what each gender wants from the other remain the biggest mysteries we have left... :-)
Nowhere is the whole "Men are from Mars... Women are from VENUS" ideology more obvious than when it comes to one of the most important areas of our relationships...
SEX!
And while men and women seem to enjoy sex an equal amount, the type of sex, and the things we incorporate into the idea of good (or great) sex are often entirely different.
As a matter of fact...
If you look at the major studies that have been done on both male and female sex fantasies, it becomes readily obvious that the genders differ in HUGE ways (no pun intended:-) when it comes to what we perceive as sexual turn no's.
For example?
Men are almost 100% physically and visually driven during sex... and things like "setting" or "story" or even emotional connection play a very small role in how they rate how good (or bad) a sexual experience is.
Women on the other hand... are 100% different.
How so?
Most women rate 3 things as MOST important when it comes to rating their enjoyment of a good sexual experience.
1 - Emotional connection. This can be defined as feelings of comfort or connection, deep friendship or infatuation and quite often, the most obvious aphrodisiac... LOVE. Interestingly, women rate LUST as a" non emotional connection", whereas men believe it's a big one. (not to say women don't WANT lust... but rather, they differentiate between feeling lust physically, and emotionally)
2 - Communication. Believe it or not, women want to communicate with you during sex. We may want you to say their names. We may want you to ASK what we want you to do. We may want you to talk to us AFTER sex is over... and before, and during as well.
IF you truly want to learn how to stimulate a woman's erogenous zones in a smooth way, learning how to communicate during sex is one of the biggest turn on's there is, and one of the most universal ways most of us FEEL sexy as well, which is a key piece of the passion puzzle as well.
(much better than a man who says nothing... and only talks with his body)
Ironically?
Men tend to be NON communicative in most areas of life, but when it comes to SEX, most men WILL speak up.
On the other side of the street... women tend to KNOW what they want from sex, but occasionally... due to cultural conditioning, feel funny speaking up, or saying it, or telling a man EXACTLY what she needs to be pleased. (even though she's dying for you to do it..:-)
3 - Experimentation and Adventure. Almost ALL women want sex to be an exploratory thing. We want to feel like our boundaries are being pushed... as well as our bodies. Learning how to explore and experiment with new things together can make a "shy" girl show off her inner sexual superhero... and because so few men actually initiate experimentation in bed, if YOU do... you'll find yourself scoring major passion points for sure.
Of course it's important to ask her what she likes (see #2) and not just assume she wants to experiment with or explore the same things you do. But if she's like many of the women out there who may NOT tell you without being asked, I think you'll be pleased with the response!
Lastly, of course most women appreciate a man with a great body, who is fit and "fits" well with her physical needs too, but the 3 simple tips above are pretty universal and ANYONE can learn them... regardless of what you look like, with your clothes on or off as well!
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