The word "love" is thrown around so easily these days that it's hard to know when someone actually means it. When a person says they love you, does that necessarily mean that it's true? Instead of relying on a person's words, you have to look at their actions to see whether or not they truly love you or are just trying to control you.
You have heard the saying that "actions speak louder than words". This is especially true when it comes to a love relationship. A person can tell you they love you like no other, but if they treat you terribly then it isn't real love. It would be like someone saying they love animals and then turning around and kicking a dog. Words mean nothing without the appropriate action to back them up. In fact, if you have ever known someone who was in an abusive relationship, their partner commonly tells them they love them and then hurts them physically or emotionally. That is a form of control, not love.
Respect is another important part of true love. If a person treats you with respect, then that is a sign of a true loving relationship. However, if a person only treats you with respect when it suits their own personal needs, then it is not coming from love.
A relationship should involve equal partners who are both getting what they need. If your relationship seems very one-sided, then that is not a good sign. Both partners should be putting in 100% of their energy to making sure the other person is happy and fulfilled in the relationship. If this isn't happening, then one person is taking way more from the relationship than the other person is receiving. Selfishness has no place in a real, loving relationship.
Even though saying "I love you" doesn't make it so, people who are really in a loving relationship tell each other that phrase all the time. They can't imagine life without the other person, so they always make sure to express their love in words and actions on a consistent basis.
In the end, you know deep down whether or not your partner really loves you from the depths of their own soul. Would they go to the ends of the earth for you? Would they protect you? If there is any question about whether your partner would always be there for you, it is very likely you are in the wrong relationship.
What is at the base of any problems you are experiencing with your relationship? Do you doubt your partner's love? If so, maybe you really need to get control of what you are telling yourself... and why!
For nearly 25 years Beverleigh Piepers has searched for and found the principles to help you get to the root causes of your crisis.
The solution is not in the endless volumes of information you find across the internet, or the advice your friends give... it's in yourself; the thoughts that make you who you are.
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