Really? Is it possible for relationships to last forever? Well, at least till death? Though not usually the case especially in this century, it is possible. I've read stories of couples staying together till old age.
No human beings are exactly the same - physical much more in their personality. Even identical twins will have different personalities. So how can two human beings who are very different from each other stay together for the longest time? It can't be love because love too fades away in time.
To make relationships last takes a lot of work, a lot of hard work! But once you commit to doing the hard work, you reap the benefits of the joys of a healthy and lasting relationship. Following are some suggestions which single moms thinking of going back to the dating world hoping to be successful in a relationship the 2nd time around can use.
Commit to knowing your special someone.
Commit to change your perspective. It is not about you, it is all about him. To understand him better you have to know him well. Knowing him well will free you from getting hurt or offended by his actions. You also will be able to easily find ways to please him. You will be able to anticipate his next move or his reactions. Commit to knowing all you can about him - his interests, goals and dreams and even his past (if he wants to share the most sensitive issues of his life and even his secrets).
Strive to be his best friend.
Build trust and confidence then you will not have difficulty getting him to talk and knowing his secrets. Respect him and always be available to listen. You will then notice that he will turn to you for advice. He will open his thoughts to you and you are now his confidante.
Always keep the line of communication open.
In any relationship, an open communication is the key to a lasting relationship. We do know that women talk more than men do. So, please give the time and opportunity to him. Let him talk and lend him your ears. Your role now is to listen, contemplate and understand. Let him finish before talking or asking for clarifications. If he does not want to speak, read his actions. Remember, our first suggestion is committing to knowing him. So if you know him, you will be able to hear and understand unspoken words.
Settle differences as soon as you can.
You and your special someone may have a lot of common interests but that is not enough for your relationship to last. Common interests will make your relationship fun and exciting during the initial stage but you are bound to have some differences in the future. When this situation happens, commit to settle the issue like adults - no shouting, name calling, cursing. Talk about it when you are both calm and are able to listen to reasons. But you need to do this as soon as you can because if you don't, differences will become like the plaque of your teeth. If not settled soon enough, differences will turn into serious problems.
Both of you must commit to make the relationship last.
It takes two to tango. Both of you must be committed and dedicated. Your relationship requires more dedication than a job or a career. You must passionately strive to work at your relationship. No relationship will last if only one party does the job. The person who does the work will soon wear out and lose his/her passion.
Keep the excitement and romance alive.
Keep impressing him. Always be in the attitude that everyday is your first date - best foot forward! Men become romantic if we teach them how. As respect begets respect, so does romance. Shower him with gifts, send him flowers for a change. Keep doing new and exciting things. Keep him guessing on what you have prepared for your special occasions. He will soon get the hang of it and will want to surprise you too.
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